What to Do about Sexual Harassment at Wedding Events
Wedding photography can be a rewarding career, but it's not without its challenges. One of the biggest challenges that wedding photographers face is the issue of sexual harassment. It's an unfortunate reality that photographers in the wedding industry can be vulnerable to unwanted advances and harassment from clients and guests. In this post, we'll discuss ways that photographers can protect themselves in their contracts and prevent sexual harassment in the workplace.
Wedding events are a celebration of love and the beginning of a new chapter in a couple's life together. However, these events can also nurture sexual tension due to a variety of factors. One of the most common factors is the presence of alcohol, which can lower inhibitions and lead to more flirtatious or sexually suggestive behavior. Additionally, the celebration of love can create a romantic atmosphere that may amplify sexual tension. As guests witness the exchange of vows and witness the couple's physical affection towards each other, they may feel more open to expressing their own romantic or sexual feelings towards others. While it's important to celebrate love and enjoy the festivities of a wedding event, it's also important to be mindful of boundaries and respect the feelings and wishes of others.
It's important for photographers to have a clear understanding of what constitutes sexual harassment. Sexual harassment can take many forms, including unwelcome sexual advances, suggestive comments, inappropriate touching, and more. It's important for photographers to recognize when they are being subjected to harassment, and to take steps to protect themselves.
One way that photographers can protect themselves is by including a section on sexual harassment in their contracts. This section should outline the photographer's expectations for professional behavior, and should include a clear definition of what constitutes sexual harassment. It should also include information about what the photographer will do if they experience or witness sexual harassment, such as terminating the contract or contacting law enforcement.
Another important step that photographers can take to protect themselves is to establish clear boundaries with clients and guests. This can include setting limits on physical contact, such as not allowing clients or guests to touch the photographer without permission. Photographers can also establish rules about behavior during photo shoots, such as not allowing clients or guests to make sexually suggestive comments or engage in other inappropriate behavior.
Some good phrases to establish boundaries are as follows:
"I'm not comfortable with that kind of conversation/behavior. Please stop."
"That's not appropriate. I’m here to provide a service to your friend/family member. Please stop."
"I need you to stop making sexual comments/advances towards me."
"I don't think that's funny. Please stop."
"I'm here to do my job, not to deal with inappropriate behavior."
"I'm sorry, but I don't feel comfortable with that kind of physical contact."
"I don't appreciate being objectified or sexualized."
"Please keep your hands to yourself. That's not appropriate."
As a bride and groom, it's also important to create a safe and respectful environment for everyone involved in your wedding event, including the event employees. Here are some things that you can say to your friends and family to prevent sexual harassment of event employees:
"We want everyone to feel comfortable and respected at our wedding, including the event staff. Please be mindful of your behavior and language."
"The event staff are here to help us create a wonderful celebration, and we want to treat them with kindness and respect. Please refrain from making unwanted advances or comments towards them."
"We ask that you treat all event staff with the same respect and consideration that you would want to receive in your own workplace."
"We want to create a safe and enjoyable environment for everyone at our wedding. Please be mindful of your behavior and avoid any behavior that could be considered harassing or disrespectful."
"We are committed to creating a welcoming and inclusive atmosphere for everyone at our wedding, and that includes the event staff. Please help us maintain a positive environment by respecting their boundaries and treating them with kindness."
It's also important for photographers to be prepared to handle situations where they feel uncomfortable or threatened. This can include having a support system in place, such as a trusted colleague or friend who can be called upon in case of an emergency. Photographers should also be prepared to report incidents of sexual harassment to the appropriate authorities, such as the police or a local advocacy group.
In conclusion, sexual harassment is a serious issue that photographers in the wedding industry need to take seriously. By establishing clear boundaries, including a section on sexual harassment in their contracts, and being prepared to handle difficult situations, photographers can protect themselves and prevent sexual harassment in the workplace. Remember, no photographer should have to tolerate harassment or unwanted advances, and everyone deserves to feel safe and respected in their workplace.
